Overheard… at the manicurist’s
I went for a manicure and pedicure over a long lunch today. M is not in the office so that’s fine. Normally when he’s in, I have a 10 minute lunch and that’s that.
So. Today has been quite relaxing for me. Nice leisurely lunch, doing nails, having a nice cuppa coffee… almost like a taitai. Almost. 
Anyway, I overheard the conversation of this lady at the manicurist. Am NOT eavesdropping as the conversation was so loud it was meant to be overheard…
Anyway, the summary of the whole conversation was that she had a ball of a time shopping on her husband’s credit card. And she wanted all of us at the salon to know it. 
However, her insistence that her husband does not mind her spending thousands of dollars on designer shoes simply had me thinking if he does indeed, mind, and she is convincing herself otherwise. Hmmm..
She then turned to me and made small talk.. I, being the friendly sort, am alright with that and chatted a little with her. Basically she wanted to know if I am a taitai (answer is NO hahaha!) and if I do my nails regularly (of course) and where do I normally go shopping (anywhere and everywhere…) Then I asked her when she started on the habit of buying designer shoes, when she just started working or after a few years ? She exclaimed, “No! I wouldn’t have paid for these myself… so expensive… all the while my boyfriends… and now my husband pays for me.”
OK.
My 2 cents on the conversation? Not to judge her, but I don’t agree with her. Perhaps her husband is happy to pay but my point is really, her attitude towards spending.
Boyfriends and husbands are not suckers to be leeched off this way. If you wouldn’t spend on something, or can’t afford it for yourself, quite shocking to squeeze the purchase from your other half! If he wants to buy something for you, fine. But to use his card to purchase stuff as if the money drops from the sky…
I really don’t agree with this, even though I love gifts.
If he gives you something from his heart, that’s sweet.. but don’t take advantage of your man like this.
Moreover the independent woman in me feels that we should be able to buy our own Manolos and her own diamonds (I do!) but then the little woman in me still likes to receive sweet little thoughtful gifts from her man every now and then..
Or if Big suddenly decides that he would spend obscene amounts of money on me for shopping, I wouldn’t mind… *screams with laughter*
But ONLY if he does this willing, or not pouted or sulked into it by me. I wonder if this makes sense to you guys?
But that’s just me.
*edited: I realised I did blog about this in the past.. guess I really cannot abide by parasitic creatures who smear the reputation of the rest of the women who earn their own keep and buy their own blings.
I dun know but it just so not me to “rob” some expensive gifts out from the ex or the hubby now!
Like you I wouldnt mind (giggling)if Allan suddenly wake up one day and decided tat he want to spent a hefty sum on my shopping spree Dream on Bearbee Dream on…. Bhwahahah
But ONLY if he does this willing, or not pouted or sulked into it by me.
I totally agree. Actually this is true for other stuff too. Like helping me clean up or what. I don’t want him to do anything just because he think I’ll have a fit if he didn’t. Of course… I do erm, suggest some stuff haha. But a couple of times and I get irritated at myself.
I’m no angel/saint though. Must have pissed him/others off a few times about these. haha
bear bee: ahahahahaha I will go hint hint at Allan ;)Lol
and yeah I know you… both of us ahve the same kind of “hard, stubborn” character.
rn: yes agreed… only if he vlunteers that you can see the sincerity or the “heart” he puts in.. but sometimes they need a little hint… not psychic you know.
I know what you mean. And I wish people would STOP telling me to get my hubs to buy me this and that. A husband (or boyfriend) is not there for us to receive monetary favours and such. They’re there to share our lives with, the ups and downs and whatnots.
If the man offers or gives willingly, that’s a different story. But to coerce him into giving is just plain cheap.
*tsk tsk @ the women of modern society* :p
Xralicious: Our hard & stubborn character always give others an impression that we are the one wearing the pants in the household
we are so independent that we dun need a man’s shoulder to lean on “sigh”
Remembered we joked abt us being the first pair of 亲家 pulling each other hairs out! High five to our similiar Fiery Temper! Bhahahaha
shelly: I know… it’s as if the wife is a legalized whore, trading i sex for trinkets or shopping.. It’s terrible. Like I said, the husband or bf is there to share our lives, not to be suckers.
bearbee: lol. I remember that conversation.
but I dun think I am the kind of Mother in law to interfere much. Just love my daughter and take care of her, I’ll be very happy. Other things I dun wanna get involved or create unnecessary politics.
yes, i don’t understand the psyche of women like that. back when i was still bartop dancing i used to meet these girls all the time. and conversations centred mostly around how much their boyfriends were willing to spend on them etcetc. i remember one girl was such the object of envy because her other half had just given her free use of a supplementary credit card.
you know, i would feel horrible letting my boy pay for our dinners, drinks, and our outings togther all the time, much less splurge on expensive nonsensical items using his money.
i swear some women still live in archaic times where it’s imperative for the man to take care of the woman and satisfy her every want.
me? i’d rather pay for my stuff using my money. it’s more satisfying… and more liberating. this way, you don’t have to feel like you owe anybody anything.
i swear some women need a lesson or two in self respect.
dida: I am still a “xiao nu ren” at heart. If my man wants to take care of me, I’m a happy camper. but still, the independent streak in me will still make sure I have the means to buy my own stuff if I want to. My post is really to say… love your man.. and not take him as a robert.
You are very right about some women needing a lesson in self respect.
Kudos, Rachel!
I too, can’t stand it when these women buy things that they themselves wouldn’t normally pay for, but have no qualms about making the purchase at their other halves’/suckers’ expense.
I feel insulted as a woman when the likes of my gender does that, and with pride too.
I’m not sure if it’s a sign of insecurity though..
I think it is greed and materialism at its ugliest. The irony is, I have been accused of materialism by some fellows before just because the things I like are more expensive. The truth is I really buy most of my own stuff.
I think guys who turn on independent women are the insecure ones.
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