A reader commented in my previous post -

How come you are not posting about your wonderful Mr Big anymore? I see you have gone political on your readers and I can’t say I like it. What are you trying to prove by suddenly changing your blogging style? Fame? Or to prove you are not a bimbo?

I am disappointed at this sudden 360 degree change of direction where you almost never talk about your own life, kids, Big anymore. Or is there something to hide?

Hope to see you reverting back to your old writing style and topics soon. Politics is just talk unless you can make a real difference. Otherwise, I don’t see why you should be dedicating your blog to something that can and is already being done at TOC website.

Hi reader

As my explanation is going to be rather losor, I thought it warrants a whole new entry of its own.

The direction of my blogging has taken on a socially and politically active angle. This is brought on by a few issues including the recent Olympics medal and the whole financial debacle and I acutely felt the need to write.

The family posts will still be here. Bimbotic adventures are covered here - where I write about fashion, lifestyle and beauty etc. I guess that answers your question about me being a bimbo - and I must admit that I am hopelessly one. Heck I look at numbers and my eyes glaze over. I am definitely more in affinity with price tags and nail polish numbers. LOL.

So, the personal posts are here to stay - along with the other social and political articles. Rather than a total change, I would say it’s an added on component. In that, I am somewhat different from the other mainstream socio-political bloggers out there.

What fame? I feel that there is hardly any ‘fame’ to be spoken of in the socio-political blogging circle. To be candidly honest, a more effective method of being ‘famous’ would be to splash pictures of me posing provocatively in cleavage baring outfits all over my blog or taking the opportunity to flash my curves wherever I can. But you are right in an aspect. I wish that people will stop seeing me as a ‘busty’ woman but as one who can think and write articulately.

As for ‘politics is just talk unless we can make a real difference’, I believe I am making a difference in my own small little ways. For example, I disagree with what is being taught in school about the Olympic medals, that our children are being taught to how to think. I always challenge my elder daughter, Germaine to think for herself and that she should not even take what I tell her for granted.

Take the recent financial saga where so many people did not know where to or who to turn to - Tan Kin Lian took the lead and then we went out there and helped those who need help. People who read my blog - like Lilian and ECL - were also there on the ground to help out. I’d like to think that yes, we did make a small little difference in our small little ways.

And to answer your question of Big, he is still the same wonderful man that he has always been, if not better. I have in my drafts, a post about his cooking, the article about Education and Germaine being in the top 15% of the schools, the article about dehumanization, the one about a birthday party Geanyne went to, along with 30 other drafts that indicate that I have so much to blog about but too little time.

While time is one factor, another reason is because I am happy. At this point, ours is the quiet steady kind of happiness that does not need constant reassurance and validation. Moreover, my frank opinion on constant horn-tooting or validations are merely shows of insecurity and lackof. Also, I find it rather vulgar and distasteful.

I guess I am happy, we are happy, I don’t feel the need to impress anyone and most importantly I don’t have anything to prove.

So, I am happy to report that all’s great and well in my life. But I must thank you for your little wake up call - that I should not be complacent about my happiness

Best wishes

Rachel

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Note :
I approved the comment because I felt that the commentator was asking some genuine questions, as opposed to some others who had commented here with despicable agendas. Of course, these people have been promptly removed from my sphere. Yes I can tell who is being despicable, catty, malicious or plainly destructive, and who is giving genuine feedback even though both may consist of negative feedback or criticisms.

There is talk elsewhere that I am trying to project a ‘perfect image’ - the person(s) must be blind and stupid to have missed the biting acerbity in my writings. These people (or person) who are still hiding behind the screen and making cheap malicious little potshots - it’s your life, and it’s very sad. I have already moved on with my (very busy and fulfilling) life but there you are, still obsessing about my life and how perfect or imperfect I am. I wish you no ill because you are nothing to me but please live your own life already. Life is so short to go obsess about someone else all the time.

Anyway there is nothing ‘perfect’ about me. If you deliberately try to mess with me, I will tear you a new one.